The party of my anniversary took an unexpected turn when my mother-in-law gave me a bill for raising my husband. It took me aback when she made that statement.
Laura, my wife’s mother, has always had strong opinions and been harsh. Our relationship has always been tense because of the way she acts. Now, this new action went too far.
As I read the detailed list, which included costs for things like diapers, school supplies, and college fees, I felt angry, frustrated, and let down. She raised her own son, so how could she expect me to repay her?
It seemed like a joke to my husband Edward at first, but I knew Laura was serious. Her acts have always been planned to make other people feel bad.
I made a plan because I was determined to protect myself and my marriage. I made a counter-bill that showed how much it hurt me emotionally to deal with Laura’s criticism, unintentional praise, and constant interruptions.
I put in therapy sessions, pretended not to notice her jabs, and showed her son what a healthy family looks like. It added up to $64,000.
With a sense of accomplishment, I sent Laura the bill by mail along with a note that matched her tone. The answer was quiet.
When we saw each other again, Laura couldn’t look me in the eyes, and I could tell she was embarrassed. It was the first time she knew she wasn’t always right.
It felt good to stand up for myself, but I did it mostly for Edward. The little boy who had to deal with mean words and painful events for years deserved better. I’m glad I fought for both of us.
At that moment, I knew it was important to set limits. Laura’s shocking demand gave me a chance to change how we relate to each other and show her how valuable I am.
I hope that other people are moved by my story to stand up for themselves too. Sometimes, you have to respond in a way that others don’t expect in order to earn respect and regain your pride.
